I’m a classic ENFJ (and Meyers Brigg personality test geek!). The ENFJ personality is identified as a Giver or Teacher, people-focused individuals that live in a world of possibility, love, support, encouragement, and making it happen. ENFJ’s have great people skills, but they also need time alone to be refueled.
And over the years I’ve found this so true. When I’m with people I give 110%. It’s been one of the most beautiful and challenging parts of my personality. I’ve deepened relationships, made life-long friends, and have had such adventures. But, the flip side is that I often find myself retreating because I’m trying to give to others out of an empty well. In short, I need self-care to be the best version of me.
To be honest, I wrestled with the concept of self-care the word made me cringe and the idea made me feel guilty. As believers, isn’t our calling to deny ourselves? Yes, X 1,000. But when we look at scripture Jesus modeled a life that was was so rooted in deep connection with the Father that he was able to pour out continually from a full well.
How do we look at the concept of self-care and incorporating nourishing rhythms through lenses of truth and grace? That is exactly what I hope to uncover over the next few weeks as we dive deeper into the topic of Grace-Filled Self-Care.
Over the next few weeks, I am digging deep into the five areas of self-care.
- Spiritual – deepening our relationship with the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.
- Emotional – cultivating healthy thought patterns that allow us to love others and God well.
- Physical – taking care of our physical body so we can live fully.
- Intellectual – growing in knowledge, wisdom, and discipline so we can love God with all our heart, soul, and MIND.
- Relational – investing in relationships and learning to live healthfully in a community.
Grace-filled self-care is one way to become people who spill out God’s hope, joy, grace, and peace into the world around us.
Grace·filled self·care // rhythms we engage in on a regular basis to restore and deepen our relationship with our Heavenly Father so that we can use our gifts fully for the Kingdom.
My AHA! Moment about how to practice self-care rooted in grace came when I was reading John 4. In this passage, Jesus is going about his everyday life, and tired from travel he sat down at the local well where he encounters a Samaritan woman. I can just imagine him dusty, tired, completely poured out, and yet fully present in that moment. When he encountered the Samaritan woman, Jesus was able to provide her exactly what she needed, because he was rooted in the Father.
Jesus answered, “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.” John 4
Jesus is the only one that can fill up our empty and dried-up wells. No amount of bubble baths, hot tea, or yoga flows can provide deep, soul-filling restoration and nourishment like He can.
Do you remember what happened right after the Samaritan women tasted the deep, nourishing water Jesus was offering? His grace compelled her to take action and go and tell others. When she encountered someone fully present and replenished, it inspired Kingdom action.
If we are called to go and spread the good news, we need to first become people that are filled with the hope, joy, grace and peace of the GOOD NEWS!
So let’s get rid of the guilt that says we don’t have time for self-care. Let’s kick off the stigma that self-care is for the selfish and embrace grace-filled self-care that fuels us towards Kingdom living.
Until next time friend – rest well in His grace.